Something that The Fabulous Davene mentioned in this week’s webinar really stuck in my head. She mentioned that we don’t “step out” of our comfort zone, but we “expand” our comfort zone.
When I heard this, I got an image in my mind. I imagined a dome surrounding me, where I felt safe. Inside this dome, nothing could hurt me. Inside this dome, this comfort zone, is where I felt safest.Around my dome, I saw fire. I could not tell where this fire started, or where this fire began. It was just all around my dome. I could see it, and I knew that it could hurt me, but I also knew that I was safe inside my comfort zone (dome). I then imagined stepping out of my comfort zone. When I did, I felt searing pain, my flesh was burning, and I was able to look down and see my charred skin, blistering, and turning black. From normal, to bright red, to blistering, to charred, is how I saw my skin, but I was able to run back into my comfort zone, then I was safe, like nothing ever happened. I knew that something better waited for me on the other side of that fire, and I found that I had a burning desire to get to what was on the other side of the fire. The burn, of my desire, was hotter than the fire outside of my comfort zone, and I knew that I had to get there. So instead of stepping out into the fire that was so excruciating, I decided to push on the walls of the dome I was in to try to expand my comfort zone. I soon found that the boundaries that once restricted my, and kept me within a zone that I couldn’t escape, started to stretch, and expand. I pushed my boundaries. I pushed and pushed, and slowly, but surely, expanded my comfort zone, although I felt the heat from the fire outside, I knew what I wanted lay just on the other side of the fire, and I knew that I had to expand my boundaries, to get past it. Soon, my boundaries became so large, that I broke through that fire. I saw, as I suspected, just on the other side of the fire, my heart’s desire, my definite major purpose in life. The person that I intended to become, was waiting there for me, not “outside” of my comfort zone, but it was now within my comfort zone, after pushing hard to expand, and then include the things that were truly important to me.